Written explicit consent (I like binders of marked up and signed spreadsheets)
Actual and responsible use of the stoplight system (Green/Yellow/Red)
Doms doing multiple color checks during a scene
Subs using their safewords
Doms using safewords
Not acting like using a safeword necessarily means anyone did anything WRONG
Characters safewording because (especially for trauma survivors) what’s fun one day isn’t always fun another
Characters safewording because sometimes what sounds hot on paper isn’t fun in real life
Characters safewording and not really knowing why, just that they didn’t feel like it today
Subs using yellow!!!!!
Doms using yellow!!!!!
Literally I have never seen anyone use yellow in a fic!
Using yellow to talk with each other and tweak a scene till it’s comfortable
Using yellow because they just need a break
Using yellow and then deciding they don’t want to finish the scene
Using yellow and then deciding they’d rather switch to vanilla sex for the night. ‘
AFTERCARE!!!!!!!
Not leaving a sub alone after a scene after just a couple minutes
Aftercare to help with sub drop
Aftercare to help with dom drop
Aftercare not always being confined to right after a scene because sometimes sub drop or dom drop hits the next day!
Knowing that dom drop even exists
Basically the smut writing community really needs to step up and start talking about consent and responsible BDSM practices, because I’ve seen too much stuff lately that makes me really angry as a Responsible Kink Practitioner
If anybody has any questions about what any of this stuff means or how to implement it, feel free to drop me a line!
